Understanding the heart Worry

In order to grasp life, we must train ourselves to be able to put our worries within an appropriate framework.

Due to the survival instinct, most animals have the ability to speculate on possible situations that affect their lives or even their lives. Like swans who have to worry about migrating south before winter comes. If accidentally left behind, it could not travel thousands of miles alone to the warm region, and could die because it could not find food under thick layers of snow. Chameleons also urgently change skin color to match bark or leaf color when the weather changes. However, they are always afraid of birds with keen eyes detecting their camouflage. Therefore, the chameleon's ability to observe is extremely keen, and the movement is also very gentle and cautious.

So are humans. Our ancestors from ancient times also worried about the future, but learned to observe the weather, conquer wild animals, store seeds carefully to prepare well for the next season. Just like that, anxiety is ingrained in people's veins. Today, we cannot help but continue and promote that powerful weapon of survival. Society, no matter how civilized, cannot prevent all unexpected difficulties or dangers. Therefore, those who know how to prepare from afar thoughtfully are considered wise and mature types. Merchants are always afraid of losing customers, fluctuating markets, making losses. Workers want a raise, or fear being fired. Students are always interested in exams, afraid of not being admitted to prestigious schools. The street vendor was sullen when he saw it pouring rain. The beggar was also anxious when the twilight faded and the can remained empty.

However, not all anxiety is due to survival instinct. There are goals that are only aimed at sublimating enjoyment, without achieving it, we are still peaceful and living well. But human perception is quite strange, thinking that the more comfortable conditions there are from material or spiritual (honor), the safer and happier it will be, so the whole life is constantly accumulating. But the more we try to accumulate, the more anxious we get. Even if we have achieved our aspirations, we are still worried. We're afraid that our existing achievements will be ruined, or that we still lose out to others. Worse, for a short time, we suddenly find what we achieve no longer attractive. So we're exhausted again looking for more, and then we're worried. People's worries are therefore incalculable. Perhaps, until you close your eyes, the disaster will end. All of these worries arise from misperceptions and from our weak internal strength. It is also a psychological condition that needs to be treated early.

Start from worrying about a problem that needs to be resolved definitively within a set time. But because there is no solution, the brain keeps reminding us of the problem, making us remember. Then worry because a solution has not been found. Then remember the problem. Then impatiently resolved but not yet. Then worry Each such loop will cause the level of bad emotions to gradually increase, if pent up continuously, emotions will be blocked. Where it is important, surely the greater the urge of willpower will be, the stronger the intensity will be, and the more likely the emotional outburst will occur. Of course, if an important problem is not solved, we suffer heavy losses. But that loss won't cause us headaches or suffering, if we're able to accept it as an unintended truth—something that often happens in this ever-changing life.

Seldom can we do that. In fact, the psychological chain of fear, anxiety, and stress reactions keeps happening to protect our rights. Those psychological chains are very harmful emotions. Once the psyche is stuck continuously, it will cause bad emotions to be highly pent up. This is a favorable opportunity for toxic hormones such as epinephrine to be massively secreted in the brain, causing the body's metabolic activities to be disturbed. Medicine has confirmed that the disorder strongly affects the formation of cardiovascular disease, neurasthenia, hypertension, memory loss, power for cancer cells to grow. In addition, it also causes us to become tired, depressed, fastidious and unproductive.

Imagination is an important trigger for anxiety to the point of stress and crisis. But before the imagination magnifies completely unreal images, it is often provoked by fear. Fear stems from a lack of faith in one's reciprocal knowledge and experience in solving problems, and a lack of courage to accept any situation that arises without fear of losing one's value or hurt.

Psychologists suggest that the psychological mechanisms of females are more sensitive about things to come than males, since females' imaginations are extremely rich. But on the contrary, women's ability to cope and tolerate bad emotions is worse than men's, so their anxiety volume is always huge. Many statistics show that most men get lost about half an hour or an hour later to ask for directions, while women only after five minutes. Of course, there were also a few men who, because of their presence, didn't want to speak. But that is also why they work hard to use their potential and try to cope with uncertain risks. Indeed, women's anxiety never seems to stop, even when everything is settled. Perhaps it's because women tend to pay so much attention to the details around them, that most of those worries are redundant. That explains why women tend to suffer more than men.

The old saying goes: "No worries are sad." It's a reminder not to be bohemian and easy, unaware of the consequences of every behavior that we will surely regret soon, not to advise us to worry as much as possible. Of course, everything is carefully thought out in advance, we will easily achieve high results. But reality shows that we don't always predict correctly. There are unnecessary worries and serious biases, but they are rarely revisited or let go. Although we know that an anxious attitude motivates us to work diligently and focus our energies on solving the problem, the immediate consequence of anxiety is that it is impossible to be fully present in the present moment to be deeply in touch with the mysterious values around us. Our minds are occupied by countless chaotic images and sounds all the time, so how can we still be mentally aware and observed? The loss of oneself also stems from that.

When we hold a glass of water in our hands and hold it up, for the first few minutes we see no problem. But half an hour or an hour later, our arms will be numb and sore. If we keep it like that for a whole day, our whole body will definitely go numb. So is my mind. If you suffer from anxiety for a long time, it will become paralyzed, no longer strong and clear to identify or solve problems. Although the problem to be solved is important, if we keep sacrificing precious resources in our souls for the enjoyment of luxury, are we really wise?

In order to grasp life, we must train ourselves to be able to put our worries within an appropriate framework. But provided that we have sufficient capacity and mental clarity to observe the process of anxiety unfolding in time. Don't let anxiety cling to us wherever we are and form as a natural activity. Anxiety capacities are toxic. Not only does it make us grimace, arid, and age quickly, but it also makes those around us feel numb and tired. Remember, anxiety is also hereditary. If we have brought in too much anxiety from the previous generation, let's try to transform it now, so that our children and grandchildren can gently move into the future.

One of the secrets to reducing anxiety is our willingness to accept the worst possible outcome. This depends on the knowledge and bravery of each person. For those who have experienced, they will prioritize keeping their souls calm rather than sacrificing them for more enjoyment. Because any enjoyment has only temporary value, and spiritual disturbances will dominate our lives forever. Actually, it's just that I'm so worried. There's no reason to see our lives as valuable. Even if we have to set ourselves up for failure, it's an important exercise for us to test our attitude of clinging, or for us to develop our endurance. Once we've accepted the worst of our losses, we have no reason to worry, though we continue to put our efforts into dealing with them to lessen the consequences. It is the attitude that is not so important that success or failure will help us have enough calmness, clarity and confidence to find the right solutions.

Of course, we can't always ignore every problem that comes up, because it depends on each problem and our level at the moment. Therefore, we also need to establish a proper principle to quickly solve problems without spending too much energy. Step one, we should write down what we are worried about. Step two, we need to sit back and focus our thoughts to think about how to solve the problem we are worried about, that is, avoid the situation of confused thoughts at all times. Step three, we write down how to solve the problem in detail. Step four, we put all our energy into solving the problem we are worried about, if absolutely necessary. Step five, we eliminate worries beyond our current capabilities. Step six, we definitely don't bother thinking about unsolvable worries. The thing to keep in mind is that none of the six problem-solving steps require comfort, calmness, and not forcing yourself to do it. It takes courage to stop as soon as we find ourselves very stressed and tired. On another occasion we are more sober, we will deal with it again.

Cultivating the capacity to pay constant attention and observation to what is happening in and around us is also a very wonderful way to stop our wandering thoughts and restore our powers. Any activity in daily life such as cooking, cleaning, talking on the phone, contacting customers, planning or making important work decisions should be paid close attention and observation. The most important thing is to see clearly what our reactions go with. Stepping outdoors and walking to focus your attention on your footsteps and breathing is also a very effective solution to reduce anxiety. Natural energy will contribute to making us refreshed and peaceful again.

If we are too stressed, lie down and relax. Lie comfortably on your back on the floor or in bed, relaxing your arms in the direction of your body, your feet outward, your eyes closed, and smiling softly to relax your facial muscles. Next, watch the bulge of the abdomen to be aware of the breath coming in and out. About five minutes later, we bring our attention to any part of our body by feeling it directly, rather than relying on our breath. If there is an area in our body that is sick or sore, we should focus our attention on it longer, and at the same time send with it the idea of love. Practice a few times and you will feel the sore area being soothed and healed from the energy of other healthy areas. While relaxing, we may fall asleep. The body and mind are now soft because they shake off stress and anxiety. Half an hour of relaxation in such a lying position will help us soon regain freshness and peace.

For a long time, busyness has caused us to lose the habit of resting. When the body is tired, the spirit cannot be clear. If we continue to squeeze out the energies of body and mind to serve our ambitions, one day we will regret their irredeemable breakdown. Do not get so caught up in external attractions that you forget the main purpose of life is to live. To live is to be happy and to love one another. Through many ups and downs, we have probably come to understand that there is no greater loss and suffering than separation. What's the point of wealth or honor when there's no one around us to share and sympathize with? It is our great worries that cut us off from reality, preventing us from seeing the mysterious value of our loved ones. What tomorrow will look like, how do we know. Let's go back to the very real things that are happening today. To live deeply with today is to worry less about tomorrow.

What
tomorrow will look like Now who knows
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