Understanding the heart Feeble - The Rike

He who lacks inner strength is the one who suffers the most.

Due to genetic influences, each individual possesses a different physiological structure. And depending on the impact of circumstances and training, each individual possesses a different psychological structure. Although psychology is the determining factor in behavior and attitude, physiology also plays an important role in changing or shaping human personality. Body and mind are inherently a tightly connected, inseparable whole. Therefore, if genetics already contain the seeds of strong emotions, we will definitely tend to look for good emotions and avoid bad emotions from an early age. This tendency is inherently instinctive. But if we live by our instincts to satisfy our emotions without considering the consequences, we will never find the true value of happiness.

For example, we find that TV shows are nothing worth watching or that the websites we are glued to are not useful, but we cannot leave them for fear of not knowing what to do when our minds are lost. We know waking up early will give us plenty of time to exercise, prepare everything without having to rush to work, but we can't overcome the comfort of a warm mattress. We always remind ourselves to only consume foods that nourish and treat the body to preserve our health and regulate our energy, but we cannot refuse when faced with favorite foods. We're very aware that continuing to treat them intimately would be misleading, but we can't try to distance ourselves from them because we can't give up feeling too sweet. We recognize the essential value of our spiritual life and resolve to practice, but we don't have the courage to limit material enjoyment and stop playing.

Love good emotions is synonymous with distaste for bad emotions. For example, we don't like to play sports, do heavy physical tasks, or brainstorm too much. We hate disciplined lifestyles, we don't like overly principled work. We don't like frank or disrespectful feedback. We are very susceptible to narcissism, hurt by stinging or insulting words. We are also always agitated by unexpected disturbances of circumstances. And when faced with great difficulties, we can only mourn but cannot calmly understand and solve. We don't believe we have the strength to overcome adversity, so we earnestly ask others for help all the time. We really want to talk to the other person with sincerity, but we don't dare to open up for fear that they will get angry and won't like us anymore. So much so, that we desperately want to decline an offer because we know we don't have the strength to take it, but we're afraid of losing heart, so we bite our teeth and endure it.

Knowing what we should do that we can't do, or knowing what we shouldn't keep doing, is a state of weakness—not being able to overcome ourselves.

Having power in our hands, being respected by many people, shouting that others must listen quietly, so we think we are very strong. But when we are suddenly insulted or slandered, we collapse immediately. We urgently seek allies to defend, or immediately sue the other person in court to reclaim honor. I think it takes proper punishment for them to be afraid to touch me anymore. But the truth is that we failed. The law can protect our rights, but if we rely on the law to resolve all conflicts, we inadvertently tolerate our weakness. If we have real power, there is no difficulty in accepting a few sporadic attacks. We can even use our talents to sensitize the enemy, turning war into peace.

We may be very resilient in the face of great adversity, undeterred by violence, but no one expects us to be very weak emotionally. We almost lose all initiative while in love. Just hearing his sweet soft words or his cries and lamentations makes us ready to accept all claims. Passion—the attitude of identifying our whole being with our favorite emotions—has made us faithful slaves of love. Sometimes we even dare to do crazy things like throw away our hard-built businesses, or cut off our love with our families in pursuit of love. We think we're living and dying to protect love, but the truth is that we're fully absorbed in the power of our emotions. So when we are subservient, we feel that we have no value left to live. Two passionate lovers putting their lives together is like two weak people who want to rely on each other.

In fact, everyone is weak at times. These are the times when we lose our awareness and let our passion rise, or the times when adversity strikes suddenly and we can't resist. And then our inherent rationality and training power will bring us back to our active position. But if we allow weakness to become a habit for a long time, remaining ignored without trying to transform, we will encounter many difficulties and even miserable failures in the face of life's ups and downs. He who lacks inner strength is the one who suffers the most.

Once two disciples and I went out into the yard to clean up broken branches after a heavy thunderstorm. Suddenly seeing a rat lying dead in the middle of the road, I put it in a big tree. Walking a few steps, I suddenly turned around and used my hand to dig up the sand to make a beautiful grave to bury it. The two disciples stepped forward and admired, "Brother is so compassionate!" As the two disciples left, I found myself in a strange void as if I had just collapsed something huge. It turns out I just had a spectacular performance. The act of placing the rat in a tree was real—it was mercy for the little animal; The act of digging a burial grave for a rat is fake — it's an attitude of wanting to show compassion that is just a thirst for recognition. The story has been going on for almost twenty years, but every time I recall it I shudder. I didn't expect my affliction to be so sophisticated, even the rat corpse could take advantage of it. Who I want to help later, I often ask myself, "What am I doing this for?" If I find myself "thirsty" for emotions, I try to stop right away.

When we conceive that the more we receive good feelings from others' validation, the more valuable our lives will be, we still haven't found our inner strength. The truth is that the more we expect and rely on favorable external conditions, the less we can exert our inner strength. We are reactions, resentments, or shallow desires, but we are also the depths within that only moments of peace can reach. Just like when we dive deep into the ocean, we see that the ocean is still very vast and deep, not just waves that suddenly die. To find the ocean within ourselves, let's not continue to identify our whole being with emotional waves. That is, we learn to forget or isolate unnecessary external demands and return to live with ourselves to understand and control our lives. The 13th-century Vietnamese Zen master Tue Sergeant Sergeant also once said: "Looking at oneself is one's duty, grasping the outside will not gain anything" (Reflection of autism duty, disobedience).

The psychology of weakness is closely related to the psychology of fear and shyness. Maybe I'm the kind of person who is loving, gentle and very cute. We're always willing to give in to others, even if we see them doing wrong or hurting us, and we don't react angrily. We are always liked by many people and are always the most chosen object to listen to others pour out their hearts. However, when working with us, everyone freaks out. It seems that we cannot decide anything, we just have to fall into a state of "not knowing what to do". At first, people thought we had big hearts to accept it all. But then they also discovered that we weren't in the habit of dealing with troubles, so we hid in our "island of silence" to be safe.

Even the need to speak up to defend truth or justice we ignore, seeks to avoid or extrude responsibility to others. Our shy attitude has turned us into a coward. Cowardice is also an important factor that creates dominance for others. There's nothing more dissatisfying than knowing it's within our power, but we can't try any longer to overcome the bad emotions that control our entire being. That emotion comes from the wrong attitude to life. The wrong attitude stems from the misperception that we should be ourselves, without modification for our bodies. Since then, we have always found ways to pamper or sublimate our favorite emotions. Innate talent is sometimes the main cause of a weak personality. Because because of it, we are famous, admired by many people, so we forget our very weak true self. Already loving good emotions now have more opportunities to enjoy a huge amount of emotions, so although we are known as the most powerful (because of our popularity and popularity), we are actually the weakest (because we are the most vulnerable).

Sometimes in front of monuments that are too large, especially when the energy of that monument is being resonated by the great admiring energy of the masses, we suddenly find ourselves too insignificant and ready to hide under their shadow. Weakness can also easily lead to an attitude of dependence and loss of sovereignty. The weaker you are, the easier it is to rely on, and the more you rely on, the weaker you are. The 12th-century Vietnamese Zen master Quang Nghiem once advised: "Make big boys blow into the sky / Star step on the trace of the Buddha City" (Self-possessing children around heavenly will/ Retirement direction Nhu Lai acts on onions). Imitating someone else, even if it is a Buddha, only brings shame and fatigue, not good. Because soul transformation is the experience of each person, not by doing the same as his spiritual idol. But why should we do the same thing as others, when we and they have different body and mind structures? We can only learn a part of the experience of our predecessors, and the rest we have to confront and discover with our own strength. The habit of enjoyment can easily cause us to lose our available mettle.

The poet Che Lan Yuan once lamented, "We sleep in narrow beds/ Your dreams crush your life/ Happiness in a beautiful garment/ A quiet roof hangs down on your soul." What are our dreams? Is it a glorious career with life, conquering the people of your dreams, owning the most luxurious property, being respected by friends and everyone around you? So what's the ideal? To live without the will to reach a higher goal will be framed in a narrow and infinitely lost space. In fact, there is no such thing as a noble purpose. Sharing your capacity to serve the community or life you rely on is only a basic responsibility of every citizen. If everyone only knows how to worry about their own happiness, who will take care of the commons? We don't want to accuse modern science of bringing so much comfort to people by itself. But the truth is that it has made the magic power of human ambition stronger than ever. It poisoned the purpose of life and drowned out the high ideals of countless people.

It is true that we have gone through the time of war, but the spirituality in your heart will never end. People are still fighting hard now, but not as a selfless warrior for the nation. I say I love my homeland, I am proud of my race, but have I ever wondered what I have done for my homeland without my rights in it? Don't take that question for granted. Don't get angry at being touched by selfishness. Have the courage to look at the facts. The homeland and race still have many difficulties, if we do not shoulder it, who will shoulder it now? If we continue to turn our backs on ideals to protect our "baby dreams," don't ask why our lives are so small that we can easily throw them into endless comas, hurt our loved ones or contribute to the destruction of our ancestral homeland.

Must it be me?
Shallow to lifeless
Where the hero of the time before
the immense sad silence.